According to psychologists, absolutely all people lie. There are many reasons that stimulate a person to lie, and it is worth understanding them in order to understand what exactly a person wants to achieve with his lie. Lies are harmless, everyday, virtually pointless. But there are other situations.
There are people more or less prone to lies. And the question here is not only about upbringing - it is proved that some people have a pathological tendency to lie, which can be classified as an exuberant fantasy in an individual’s childhood.
The simplest causes of lies
Sometimes a lie becomes a struggle for the attention of interlocutors around. A person cheats by telling a story in order to attract maximum attention to his story, to cause emotions in people. Especially often this phenomenon can be observed in situations where the narrator and his company are not too sober, which means that the restraining systems of the psyche are weakened, the person does not control himself as if in a sober form.
From small, insignificant tricks, sometimes amazing stories are created that are already very far from reality - this happens when the same story passes through several lips, and each new storyteller adds something of his own. So gossip is born.
Sometimes people lie for the opposite reasons - they want to reduce the emotional intensity, calm others. This is the so-called lie for the good - the interlocutor is not told the whole truth or deliberately false information is provided only so that he does not worry.Another variant of lying for the sake of relatively good intentions is a lie in order to evoke positive emotions in the interlocutor. So parents can lie to the child in something, so that he calms down and stops roaring, for example.
By lying people draw attention to themselves. Some individuals may lie that they are sick or injured, invent some kind of problems just to be pitied, paid attention to them.
Interesting fact: In many cases, a compliment can also be regarded as a lie, it can be an ordinary flattery. Flattery is a false manifestation of sympathy, admiration for a person in order to obtain his protection, or simply attention.
Good reasons for lying
There are many people who want not to lie about trifles. But there are situations when a lie begins to play the role of self-defense. It is for this reason that people sometimes refuse to admit their guilt, demanding to prove that the fact under discussion was in general. People can lie, protecting their loved ones. Some are able to take the blame on themselves to protect a relative, close friend, loved one. This is also a lie, albeit a noble one. People lie to keep a wife or husband, to save a family, despite the fact that they are often the first to deliver a devastating blow. They lie for the sake of maintaining business ties, developing business, achieving other large or small goals.
Social Media Lies
Today, many people suffer from loneliness, as well as from the fact that they fail to become famous, become famous, and gain success.And they, too, begin to lie in order to change the situation - today all conditions are created for this. Social networks are full of pages of people who tell fictional stories about themselves - posing as a hero, or vice versa, forming the appearance of an unfortunate person who needs to be pitied. In such a situation, a person can wallow in lies, begin to believe in their own fables. It is worth noting that the psyche experiences a severe shock from the inconsistency of the real world with the fictional.
A lie can be a painful phenomenon when a person simply does not know how, cannot tell the truth without embellishing it even a little. There are people who lie constantly, there are others who do this very rarely. However, there is not a single person who would not lie even once in his life. It is impossible to unambiguously evaluate the personality of liars - first you need to find out what exactly pushes them to lie, only after that you can judge the personal qualities of a person.
As for those who like to embellish stories in conversations, but who do not manifest themselves as immoral in practice, they should be treated calmly. A person’s actions always speak more than his words, and it is precisely the actions that you should pay attention to first of all. Anyone who told you a story about his past yesterday can give a helping hand in a difficult situation today, and vice versa, a person who has never lied to you can just as honestly and calmly refuse.
